Teenage Rebellion – Why it’s Good

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They come from every race, ethnicity and socioeconomic class…teenagers. Teens like all children test their boundaries. What scares some parents is the way some teens choose to express themselves as they test these boundaries. But it’s not as bad as it seems. Cultural norms of today such as rock and roll, long hair for boys and even girls wearing pants, all started as a form of teenage rebellion.

A teen’s world is very controlled. They are told what to do, what to eat, when to sleep and so on. Education is their main focus and school is their social center. Everything they experience is often as a part of a group. This is especially true in pop culture and fashion trends. They are constantly bombarded by friends, family and media regarding what they should like, music and movies they need to experience and how they are supposed to feel.

Rebellion is a natural response to all the pressure. Rebellion isn’t always a bad thing. Changes in clothes, hairstyle, piercings and musical tastes are normal responses. Rebellion is often just an attempt of teens trying to define themselves.

Unless your teen goes down a path of drugs, alcohol and crime, you should accept the rebellion as a rite of passage. Show you teen you care about them and respect their choices. Encourage their experimentation and try to find common ground. Mostly try to remember when you were that age.

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The First Job – A Teenage Right of Passage

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A kid’s life is easy. No responsibilities and no worries, just carefree summer days. But as kids grow older and start to follow the latest pop culture trends life tends to get a bit more complicated. The latest fashions and gadgets are expensive toys and most parents can’t or won’t buy everything the teens want. To support their lifestyle and increase finances, many teens turn to part-time jobs.

A teen’s first job is usually a hard lesson in reality. They may see their parent’s jobs in nice offices with a comfortable atmosphere and expect to find something similar. Typical teen jobs such as in fast food, retail and warehouses are anything but relaxing. They are often stressful service jobs that require as much sweat equity as they do mental acuity. With consistent consumer wants bubbling all the time, most teens rise to the occasion and become excellent workers.

Experiencing a first job is a huge leap a teen’s personal development. The job starts to become less about the paycheck and more about learning value in doing good work they can be proud of.  Skills learned on the first job can become life lessons for teens as they use their experiences in future work and education situations.

The first job of a teen can teach them more about patience, responsibility, self-worth and interpersonal relationships than they would ever learn in a classroom.

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